20130806 - 奮興會

《複雜世界，徹底愛心(6) - 得勝嫉妒》(林前13:4-7)
主辦機構：港九培靈研經會(第85屆)
講員：Dr. Ajith Fernando (斯里蘭卡青年歸主協會教導總監)

(Love, not envy) Envy is also very common in churches?
Because someone has gifts that others are jealous about. (哥林多教會也是如此)

Envy comes from an attitude
Envy to other people => competition
Want to win over them, and want them not to succeed

Children facing constant comparison when growing => permanent scars
They cannot enjoy their successes
Envy becomes a personality => unhappy person

(You deserve a role but you don't get it?
You deserve to be mentioned for honor but don't receive it?
In equal positions but others are privileged?)

原生父母不斷把你跟其他人比較 => 你也會把你的兒女跟其他人比較
=> 很難撇棄這行為
比較令子女心靈受傷，可使他們長大後引起更大爭執

Solution: understand yourself from Bible => not to be tricked by anyone
The most important point is that we are children from our God.
不是根據才幹、能力、身世、身份
(約一3:1) 我們得稱為神的兒女 => 神以我們為榮!
我們以神、神的道為樂，但神也以我們為樂 (詩35:27, 149:4, 149:11, 番3:17)
Just like parents very proud on their children
But very difficult to convince people about this because they always hear the opposite from the others

(I don't know if I have thought of God when I was unconscious, but I hope He always thought of me.)
我們常(想)以行動取神喜悅?

Praise to God: this is also how we should treat others => always praise
because praise completes (joy and) relationship between us
(令人喜悅要開金口?)
若保羅不讚揚別人，書信就會少了很多內容
雅歌 => 讚賞自己的伴侶
=> Praise is the discipline and lifestyle of Christian

We envy because we are not affirmed, but God says everyone is unique
Understanding and accepting yourself is a lifelong task

A. Through saturating ourselves in the Word
例：(林後5章) 我們是神的使者
Also through Christian songs, scriptures go into our heart

(家人被赤柬屠殺的見證：自己有創傷後遺症，但每晚入睡前讀詩23篇
因神的話語得著醫治，後來回到柬埔寨服侍那些心靈受傷的人)

B. Through the Holy Spirit (羅8:15-17)
From everyday life, from church, our needs are met and we are healed

People only focused on their misfortune?
These things only make them become unhappier and angrier
=> prevents them to enjoy God's richness

C. Through lingering the presence of God
感受神的全能
(詩34:5) - use pray to experience, share problems with God

如果不從神找到自己的重要性、身份、安全感，我們就會從其他渠道中尋找
=> 嫉妒的源頭
=> 常常都很忙
=> 不能自拔，因為怕感到空虛
=> 進入虛幻的現實 (virtual reality) 中
我們有很多問題，皆因我們不能永遠在一個空間中獨處
我們不知道，也害怕知道我們是如何的空虛
=> 不放走自己的工作、職位、身邊的人
身分從服侍而來? 不，是從神而來!
每當我們受壓或不被別人了解時，就會忘記禱告
記得抽時間禱告，哪怕是很少，都能有足夠的力量繼續走!

D. Through the Work He has given us to do
(弗4:7) "metron" => metrics => all gifts are tailored
(林前12:11) 恩賜分派給別人 => 人人都有自己要作的工 => 每人都是同樣重要

So don't let anyone look down on you (if they do so, don't trust them)
(講員自己的見證? 14歲時就立志做傳道人 => 慢慢發現自己有這方面的恩賜
=> 終於明白 "自己是神的兒子" 是甚麼一回事)

教會領袖要懂得幫別人發掘及發揮恩賜，又要營造氣氛鼓勵別人善用恩賜作工
(否則於神有虧損!) => 不要再話自己不重要! 不要再望別人，神指著的是你!

E. Through the community God has given us
受排擠的人可能以為自己不被社會接納，甚至以為自己不被神接納
但可以在教會群體中重新被建立
=> 屬靈父母的出現
=> 發現自己是可被接受的 => 重新發現自己被神接納

(提前1:18) 基督徒要懂得互相欣賞! 要看別人比自己強
=> 不是視他們為威脅，而是坦然承認別人比自己好
(羅12:10, 21) 尊重 => 更尊重；以善勝惡

還有不能放下的情緒? 為他們得著更多恩典祈禱
=> 他們成功也與你有關!
=> 能夠因為在同一隊工中而歡喜快樂

最重要先了解自己!